一次被蛇咬,十年怕草繩

norwegian-viperadder-1349081-mIn Taiwan, I remember one night we walked from our house to grandma’s house in Nei-Hu. Instead of walking on the road, we went thru that little hill next to the road.

I remember I was all happy and singing as I was leading the pack up the hill first. There was street lights behind us that cast our shadows in front of us. I thought the 4 long shadows of our bodies were legs of a bear so I stopped singing and walking altogether.

Dad laughed, “What’s wrong, you thought the shadow was a bear? Hahahaha!” Another lesson learned. Every time I feel scared or worried, I think back to this incident and ask myself, “Am I scared of my own shadow?”

Unfortunately the same thing can happen to other kids and they will be scared of shadows for the rest of their lives:

一次被咬,十年草繩 (He who was once bitten by a snake will be frightened at the sight of a coiled rope)

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What my kids taught me about winning

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Here is a typical interaction among us family when Mason (our 6 six year old) wants something:

Mason: “Daddy, can I have an ice cream?”
Daddy: “No.”
Mason: “Why not?”
Daddy: “Okay, go ask mommy.”
Mason: “Mommy, can I have an ice cream?”
Mommy: “Go ask daddy.”
Mason: “Daddy said to ask you.”
Mommy: “Oh, did you eat dinner already?”
Mason: “Yes!”
Mommy: “Well, but only one, OK?”

Eventually Mason gets his ice cream.

Lesson learned? Let’s examine.

He Asked

Mason: “Daddy, can I have an ice cream?”
Daddy: “No.”

If you want something, do you ask for it? Well, he did. Did he get a “Yes”? No, but he asked. Most of us stopped asking for what we want in life once we reach adulthood.

He Asked Again

Mason: “Why not?”
Daddy: “Okay, go ask mommy.”

If you asked for a promotion at work and the boss told you “No”, would you ask why? Well, Mason did. Did he get a concession, yes, since I don’t want to be the one giving him too much sweets I referred him to Mommy.

He Persevered

Mason: “Mommy, can I have an ice cream?”
Mommy: “Go ask daddy.”
Mason: “Daddy said to ask you.”
Mommy: “Oh, did you eat dinner already?”
Mason: “Yes!”
Mommy: “Well, but only one, OK?”

How bad do you want to get that promotion you deserve? How bad do you want to win in life? All I know is Mason is getting that ice cream the first time he asked me. When I said told him “No” I already knew he was going to ask another person to get his “Yes” even if I didn’t tell him to go ask Mommy.

If a 6-year old can do this, why can’t we as a 20, 30, 40, 50-year old? What have we lost as we mature?

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Life is a zero-summed game?

Welcome to game of life – it’s called a zero-summed game. It starts with this simple multi-variable equation:

Aw + Bx + Cy + Dz = 0, where

A, B, C & D are coefficients you adjust to life’s aspects (w, x, y, & z) you want to maximize.

For example,

w = career
x = relationship
y = finance
z = character

Of course, you define what these are – what’s important to you.

In an ideal world, you could have A, B, C & D all equal to 1 (or 100%), but that would violate the law of this zero-summed equation.

Realistically, you can’t achieve 100% in all aspects of life. In other words, as you gain some, you lose some.

Let’s look at some practical examples of how this equation is applies to people we meet daily, and how it relates to you.

Have you met someone who’s a rich jerk? If we are using this example equation,

A(career) + B(relationship) + C(finance) + D(character) = 0, then

this super-rich jerk would probably score 100% on A and C, but -100% on B and D, which results in a zero-sum.

Have you ever met someone with a good career, in a harmonious relationship, very wealthy, with great characters? Yeah, didn’t think so ;)

Have you ever met a poor gentleman? Plenty of those out there as well.

Listen, I’m not here to say what’s right or wrong, what’s important or not important – the takeaway here is that you can’t have it all.

We all have 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, 365 days in a year (366 on leap years), and only so many years to live… and that’s the resource we have to maximize each coefficient.

Define what’s important to you, but do realize as you focus on obtaining perfection on some aspects of your life, other aspects will suffer with it.

Just because you’ve achieved maximum result in one aspect of life doesn’t mean you are successful, because you’ve failed in other aspects of life.

So, who wants to start a meaning discussion about whether we should strive to have a balanced coefficients, or go with extremes by having 100% of somethings and -100% of rest of the somethings?

Edit: I’ve just realized eHarmony is probably using my zero-summed game equation for their matchmaking service… they’ve expanded the variables to 26 and match people based on similar coefficients.

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How to Make Money with Amazon Kindle

If you’ve been following my passive income blog, then you’ll know that I’m running a 6-week experiment with making money by publishing to Amazon Kindle.

I know of several internet marketers who are currently making a killing with their Amazon Kindle ebooks. There is really no secret to their success – it just takes work… simple as that. (If you are feeling disappointed when you read it, then you haven’t gotten it)

However, there is a difference between hard work, and smart work. Part of working smart is knowing what to work on. Information is key to productive work. You’ve got to have a proven plan. You’ve got to have direction. Otherwise, you are just doing mindless work that produces nothing.

In the first week’s post of the Kindle Case Study I revealed the big plan. I’m about to publish the 2nd post, which is on picking a book topic.

So, I invite you, if you are willing to put in the work (effective work), to follow along and start your own Amazon Kindle income stream:

http://www.netpassiveincome.com/how-to-become-an-authority-and-make-a-killing-by-selling-high-profit-kindle-ebooks-on-amazon/

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Baby Announcement: Allison Chang

The Chang family has a new addition.

Welcome Allison!

Born 2/16/2012
Weight: 7lb, 5oz
Height: 19″

 

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The Mayonnaise Jar – Philosophy Life Lesson

I am reposing a Facebook share that I thought is simply brilliant.  This philosophy has served me well, and I hope it will also help you “prioritize” who/what is important to you.

I looked in Google to see where this originated so I can properly credit the source, but couldn’t.  If you do know though, please let me know.

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.

Here it goes…

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – God, family,
children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.” he said.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are
important to you…” he told them.

“So… pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled and said, “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

Please share this with other “Golf Balls”

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New Year’s Resolution Ideas For 2012

Wow, it’s already 3 days into 2012.

Have you had your 2012 New Year Resolution thought out already?

If not, here are some ideas for you all based around improving yourself and subsequently people around you (ever heard of the butterfly effect?).

Better Your Health

Rather than making each of these things as new year resolutions, I’m just going to lump them all together as something you should do to better your health:

  • Eat Better
  • Drink Less
  • Exercise More
  • Stop Smoking
  • Break Old Habits

Read More

No… Facebook & Twitter don’t count.

Go to your nearest local public library. Seriously.  The public libraries are so under utilized, and it’s free!  They even have free internet there if you insist on reading from websites.

Be careful, though.  There is saying, “You are what you eat.”  Same goes for, “You are what you read.”  So, choose your book wisely.

Build Wealth

I’m a long-time Dave Ramsey fan, so I will give you advice your grandmother would give, except I keep my teeth in:

  • Stop accumulating debt.  That means no more credit cards, sorry.
  • Live frugally, and only buy things you need, with cash.
  • Save.  Save.  Save!

Start a Blog

What does starting a blog has anything to do with new year’s resolution?

Announce on your blog what your new year’s resolution is, and have your readers/subscribers keep you accountable!

This is the reason why people who write diaries tend to accomplish their goals, because they keep themselves accountable through daily reflection.

A blog is extremely helpful for tracking your goals, so use it like a diary.  You can set it up to be private (for your eyes only), or public so the whole world can see it and keep you accountable for what you said you would do.

Until then, have a wonderful and prosperous 2012!

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Definition of Insanity Is…

Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

If you live each day wondering why life hasn’t changed for the better, you are probably not doing anything different than what you are already doing.

In fact, if you are not growing, you are probably dying!

For some people it’s about getting your lazy ass off the sofa, turn off the TV and do something else other than getting your brain washed by the media.

For others, it’s about getting off Facebook and stop writing or responding to wall posts, and start writing blog posts that change the world.

Remember Einstein’s definition of Insanity.  The guy’s a genius (no pun intended).

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iPhone in Windows 7 “no new videos or pictures were found on this device”

So, I recently upgraded to Windows 7, and I plugged in my iPhone like I normally would on Windows XP to download all the pictures and videos I took.

Well, I thought it’d be a breeze.  I plugged in my iPhone, and Windows 7 did detect the iPhone, but when I selected to import the images, I quickly got a “no new videos or pictures were found on this device” message.  Ugh!

After doing some digging around the ‘Net I found out that you have to first disable passlock on your iPhone.

So, if you are hitting the same wall I did, go under Settings icon and click on General Settings.  There you will be able to turn Passlock off.

Once turned off, plug it into the USB port again, and everything should work from there.

Don’t forget to turn passlock ON after you are done downloading the pictures and videos!

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OK, I’m back

Oh WOW, it’s been a while since I blogged here.  You know the saying, out of sight, out of mind!

So MUCH has happened since my last post, and I can’t wait to share with you all.  I promise you they will be life lessons you don’t want to miss.  Tons of mistakes, very little success stories.

Stay tuned…

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